Mars in Virgo

It can be. You find 'projects' more attractive than people sometimes. Ask yourself: do I love this person, or do I just love the feeling of being the one who figured them out? True intimacy starts when you stop trying to edit your partner.

When you're angry, you go straight for the weak points in someone's logic. It feels like 'helping' to you, but it feels like an attack to them. Try leading with a feeling rather than a list of what they did wrong. 'I feel anxious when the house is messy' works better than 'You are lazy.'

Competence. Seeing someone be exceptionally good at what they do—whether it's coding, cooking, or debating—is your aphrodisiac. Also, a clean, organized space is non-negotiable for your libido to kick in.

Badly. You tend to work until the hardware fails. You need to schedule 'do nothing' time as if it were a high-priority task. If it's not on the calendar, your Mars won't allow you to rest.